Sunday, May 14, 2017

To our moms (plural)

To my Mom…
You might not always feel needed but you are.
You raised two strong women. Who work hard, and try to play harder (at least one of us, I will let the readers decide who I am referring to).

You provided us with a childhood I dream to provide my kids with.  

You showed us through experiences a taste of what this life has to offer.

You are an amazing mom. AND an exceptional Nana.

To my Step-Mom…
I don’t know this to be factual but I imagine that being a Step – Mom is somewhat harder…
At least maybe to the two young girls below….

Joyce, you showed us a different side to unconditional love. You choose to stay and stand your ground. Even when you didn’t have to. Even when we fought back.
The two women you helped raised are thankful for that!

To my Mother in Law.

You raised a man who is the best person I know. 
 (Side note. Mason just asked "who is that little guy" when I told him we laughed for about 5 minutes)

I do not just say that because he is my husband. I say that because it is the truth. I am in awe of this and will forever be grateful. 

He stands up for what is right, always. He is kind, smart, loyal, fun and the best father and husband. PERIOD.
He is everything I want Mason to be as a man and everything I want Kendall to find in a future spouse. 

Legacy and my kids. 
I know Mothers day is a day about well… Mothers. 
But these are always TWO things that weigh on my heart each Mothers Day.

Our time here is not guaranteed and the older I get the more acutely I realize just how fast a life can go by.

The legacy we leave might not be so special that the universe is unalterably changed. 
HOWEVER, you can leave a legacy that leaves lasting footprints on those whose lives you touched.
Those who are gone, live on through stories and love passed down to the next generation.

To my kids…

As your mom, there are a few things I would like you to know and well today seems like a pretty good day to share them with you.
 Your Dad and I are working tirelessly to try and teach you things that will help you grow and fingers crossed make you tolerable teenagers and HOPEFULLY well rounded adults.
So knowing that you should understand a few things.

I am NOT perfect. Never will be.
This also means I do not expect perfection from you.
As difficult as it may be, I want to show you by example that it is OK to mess up. It is OK to flat out fail. Mistakes happen. Guess what. We get up. Dust ourselves off and start over or try again. And again. And again.
As you get older I will try to remember that it is not my place to manage every aspect of your life. I will trust more and more in your own abilities to manage good decision and direct your own path….
BUT LETS NOT PUT THE CART BEFORE THE HORSE. You are after all only 5 and 8.11!

I cant and wont fix every problem you have.
I can never protect you from all of the frustrations, hurts and harm you will face.
BUT I promise to try to balance protecting you and allowing you to experience life.
While I won’t fix your problems, I will try to help you figure out how to handle them.

Your BODY is a BIG DEAL.
Just look at how fast you are growing.

This in itself is miraculous to me. 

Every day you get taller, stronger, more handsome, more beautiful, smarter….
These bodies. THEY ARE YOURS.
Be kind to them. You have only one body. Take care of it. Treasure it. Make the most of what it can do for you.

I have to set boundaries.
First. There is nothing I want more than to give you everything your heart desires. BUT THAT WOULD BE IRRESPONSIBLE.
This means there will be times when you don’t get to do something you really want to do. That doesn’t mean I don’t trust you. It means that I LOVE YOU and I don’t always trust other people.
This also means that I will not buy you every toy you ask for. Why? Because I don’t want to raise and entitled brat. Which means you will have to work, earn and save for certain things.
Then it will not only mean more to you when you get said thing but it will also provide you a sense of accomplishment. This is something that can not be given it must be earned.

Love is the most important thing.
There is just A LOT of ugliness in the world.
I so wish I could protect each of you from it. But I can not.
Bad things happen. People say and do mean things. You will see hateful actions.
BUT you should always know that you are LOVED. NO MATTER WHAT.
It does not matter what you do or say, your Dad and I will always LOVE YOU. This does not mean we will always lie you or approve of your actions but you will always be loved.
I try to say it as often as I can. I don’t even want you to question how loved or proud I am.
You are hands down the JOY of my life. Our family is the best part of my world. PERIOD. END OF STORY.

I am beyond proud to be your mom. 

Thursday, January 12, 2017

Do not be afraid - SHINE BRIGHT!

Mason and Kendall,
This country is going through a transition. Some people will say that the world is a scary place and that there is NO HOPE for the future. They believe it is dark and bleak.
I want to encourage you to not pay attention. There are things that are awful and terrible. SAD and true. But as life has shown our family there is always HOPE.
There is always good.
These are the tools that are needed.
You have been fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:13).
You are well equipped.
The bible teaches us that there is power in the tongue to speak life… These words are affirmed over each of you daily.
FEAR will tell you that it is not enough and that there is nothing that can be done.
It might say to you that you are helpless and a victim to fate.
Don’t believe these lies. IT IS NOT TRUE.
The world is simply your canvas and it is waiting for the both of you to make your mark on it with your compassion and purpose.
Once you do. This world will never be the same.
This world. This Country. It is still a very beautiful because it is full of people with greatness inside.
ALWAYS BELIEVE IN PEOPLE. Always believe that your actions big or small matter.

There is NO act of kindness too small. When you decide to give. IT MATTERS. When you share. IT MATTERS. When you smile at another person. IT MATTERS.
When you make a decision to love instead of hate it matters.
Love is more powerful than evil. PERIOD.

There are a lot of things happening right now that are violent and hateful. Somethings are not fixable and sometimes there is not much that can be said. 
During these times we grieve. 

These are also the times that we could be convinced that there is more evil than good in the world right now.
This is when I look to both of you.

YOU remind me of the good. 
YOU inspire both your Dad and I to be a better people. 
When I look into both of your eyes I see all that is good.
I see light and innocence. 
I see passion and fire.
 I see two kids who will not be easily pushed down or quieted. 
I am beyond proud of the 4 year old and 8 year old people you are.
You are both world changers.
P.S. Can you call me this forever?